5 Ways to Boost Your Confidence

If there’s one thing I learned over the last several years, it’s gaining confidence. I come from years and years of battling insecurities. No matter how extroverted I was and comfortable I was saying what was on my mind or being silly, I still lacked confidence. I was always comparing myself to others, especially in the looks department, and constantly seeking validation & attention. I felt like I was never liked enough by guys I dated which caused me to be so jealous in my previous relationships. I was torturing myself. I look back at photos of myself and think “how did I call myself ugly?” Why wasn’t I happy with this beautiful girl? Perhaps years of being teased & bullied will do that to you.

Since turning 30, I made it a point to overcome that by focusing on developing self-love, self-worth, and self-confidence. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not confident in myself 100% of the time. There’s no on/off switch for confidence. It takes time and work. We’re human, not robots. It’s normal to feel that we look like crap from time to time or that we’re not enough, but what it comes down to is how much time and energy we focus on those negative thoughts.

My confidence journey has been a long one, but it all started with reflection, looking within to realize my worth. Telling myself I am enough, how powerful I am, how beautiful I am, how smart I am, etc. Then focusing on my thoughts, my goals, myself and no one else’s journey. Then surrounding myself with inspiring, loving people. You are who you surround yourself with. Then it was about how I looked throughout the day. It may sound superficial, but I swear it helps when we put on a nice outfit & get ready. Even if we’re not going anywhere, it adds a huge boost when we feel presentable and not lounging around in sweats all day.

All that being said, I hope these things help you as they have helped me battle my insecurities. You are beautiful. You are wonderful. You are a light! You just have to own it and shine! Xo 😘